As she's gotten older, she asks more questions about all the observations she makes. She's always been extremely observant and now that her dictionary is expanding, her observations have come to life. Now, don't expect any advice on how to curve what you will read next because not only do I not have any, I don't even think I'm handling this correctly myself. Although she tells me I'm the best mommy "ever over the world", I really have no clue what to do in this situation.
When we go out places, stores, parks, whatever, if she sees something she's not particularly into on another person, she asks me about it...the last two times though, were a little...rude to say the least.
So let me paint the picture for you for the first time, maybe 2 months ago..we are walking out of the grocery store, she is in the cart, in the front part where kids are supposed to sit, and a man is walking behind me so my sweet little Kiyah POINTS and asks, "mommy why hims teef look like dat?!" This time, I quickly put her arm down and said stop pointing, be quiet, and made it a point NOT to turn around to look at this mans teeth. Of course, she touches her teeth and says "But I just asking you why."
So I had a brief talk with her and told her that she can't just point things out on people if she thinks it looks funny or if she doesn't like it. Moved on from it, because I really just didn't know how to address that to a, at the time, 2 year old.
Today, we were at the store, having a great time, laughing and joking together as we searched for things we don't need..because that's what happens when you go into Target. I chose a lane and it was a male cashier...makes no difference, his line was shortest. Well, he was obviously obese but I didn't put two thoughts to it because who I am to judge? As we roll up to the register Kiyah says, "Why hims look like that?" She said it in kind of a whisper, so I just quickly whispered back to her, "stop it. Don't start." He was sweating, profusely, so I was assuming maybe that's what she was referring to because it's not like we are teaching her fat and skinny, so I gave her the benefit of the doubt and thought maybe she didn't even realize his weight and was maybe amused by the sweat. WRONG! WRONG! WRONG! "Look at hims big ole belly." Normally, I would correct the hims and tell her to say he, but that was the least of my concern. I just ignored her guys. I kept paying attention to the stuff being swiped across the counter and ignored her, what the hell else was I supposed to do?! I pushed her away a little, really hoping he wasn't hearing her because she didn't stop there. Next she said, "and hims little liiiiips"...lips has a lot of I's because she is at this point about to make a list of things that she does not like on this man. & the only thing I knew to do was ignore her, and be extra nice to him while he was ringing me up since my daughter is being the biggest jerk on Earth.
I felt like such an asshole, but I really didn't know what to do. I panicked lol, I choked, I dropped the ball, all of that. I just wasn't prepared, and I probably won't be the next time either. I still had the talk with her after, and told her that next time if she has something to say to just wait until we get to the car and tell me. So, when we got to the car she said "I'm sorry mommy. I'm sorry I said the big ole belly."
My mom's advice was to tell her "whisper in my ear, so noone else can hear." Which is great, because it rhymes. So next time I will try that, but until she gets it..I just have to be the asshole parent, who most people thinks looks too young to be a parent anyway, with the child with no manners.
I promise she has manners though, she just isn't always sure when to use them :\
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